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Summer of Change #7: Forgive Yourself

We spend so much of our lives degrading ourselves.

‘Why didn’t I do that right?’

‘Dangit! Only on a diet for four days and I already fall off’

‘I screwed up.’

Want to know the difference between positive successful people and depressed people who want to attain their dreams? Okay, yes, there are several answers to that, aren’t there? But one of those is they forgive themselves. They don’t keep residual anger or guilt. They forgive themselves for things they’ve done and move on.

No guilt. No worry. No doubt.

Now if that isn’t a way to live, I don’t know what is. So forgive yourself. If you’ve done something that makes you feel bad, ask the universe to forgive you, make peace with it, and move on.

Summer of Change, Extra #2: Attitude of Gratitude

Yes, you knew I was going to get to this sooner or later. Gratitude is an amazing thing. When you truly feel grateful for something, it sounds out the most amazing vibration into the universe, connecting you to your dreams and to more amazing things than you can imagine.

Now, notice I said ‘truly feel grateful”. No false gratitude here. I put this as an extra, because this is a daily assignment. At least through the rest of the Summer of Change. Hopefully throughout the rest of your life in one way or another.

I want you to pull out a piece of paper. In fact, get a pad of paper and Write on the front: GRATITUDE JOURNAL

Now, I want you to do this by hand if you can. Writing by hand is actually a much deeper connection than typing something. You have to draw each letter, not just hit a button.

Now, for each day, I want you to make a list of ten things you are grateful for in that very moment. Yep. Ten. And remember, only things you are TRULY grateful for. Don’t put down items you think…

Summer of Change #6: Live

Stop planning, stop hoping, stop regretting, stop dreaming for just a second. Today, I want you to live. Ignore yesterday. Tomorrow will take care of itself.

For today, do something just for you. Go to the movies, buy a book you’ve been wanting to get, walk in the park with an ice cream cone and a smile. Learn a magic trick. Live your life today. Don’t just hope it will happen. Live it.

Some of you might be saying, ‘but what I’m working for hasn’t come through yet’.

My answer? Get into that feeling. Remember how it will feel when it arrives? Have that in your head? Now go do something today that drives that feeling home.

Your dream is to be a size 6? Do NOT go to the mall and look at the size sixes as invariably you will then compare them to your current size and that’s just depressing. Instead, be a size 6 in your mind. Feel how amazing you look. Walk around town as a size six. You feel it. You exude it. Wow, you are so tuned into it.

Just for today, live your life. Be your dream. F…

Summer of Change #5: Love

Yep. Today is the day to love yourself. You. You amazing, wonderful person. Hug yourself. Now.

What? Somebody is watching? Make a beeline for the bathroom, lock the stall door and hug yourself.


Harder still.

Pour every ounce of love you can imagine into yourself. For YOU are important. Very important. Know it. Feel it. Hug it into you. If it feels odd and makes you want to run from the room, hug yourself harder! Because you haven’t been loving yourself enough.

You deserve to be loved, so love yourself.

Summer of Change #4: Laugh

Do it. Laugh. Don’t have anything to laugh about? Buy a Victor Borge video. Get a copy of one of the Carol Burnett Show videos. Go and watch children play in the park. Watch the original Muppet Movie. Find something funny and lose yourself in it.

Laughter lifts the spirit, helps our body to return to its natural healthy state, and just makes us feel better.

Just make sure it is positive laughter and not negative laughter. Laughing at someone’s misfortune will not bring about the same results as positive laughter.

So laugh it up!

Summer of Change #3: Commune with Universe

Put away your books, your work, your partner, your children, your boss, your parents, and every issue affecting you here on earth and open up to the divine within. Pray, meditate, channel, however you choose to commune with the universe is your personal choice. For me, meditation and channeling are my current ways to do so.

Take 30 minutes. Lock the bedroom or bathroom door. And let the word wash away as you get in touch with the divine within you.

Talk about a sustaining, positive force.

(Caveat: If you choose to attempt channeling which is open to everyone, learn how to do it the right way. You do NOT – at least I hope not – want to commune with spirits who are out for a lark, for that kind of connection will lead you in the wrong way. There are ways to make sure you channel only with those who are here for your highest good. )

Summer of Change, Extra #1: Cast Your Burden

Florence Scovel Shinn has an interesting take on the phrase ‘Cast your burden’. If you have done any study of the bible, you have heard this phrase. “Cast your burden on the lord so that it may be light”.

What does that mean? Well, it essentially means we are not meant to do this on our own. We are such independent creatures sometimes, or we’ve been taught not to ask, that we don’t even think that our burdens are not ours to bear. Nope. Not one.

If you take as a premise that ‘god’ or ‘christ’ is internal. That the great I AM is actually our own human imagination. Or that we are all tied together with only 5% of our spirit residing in these frail human bodies and the other 95% residing elsewhere amongst the 95%s from everywhere else, this is the premise:

We’re all in this together.

So cast your burden upon those who are ready and willing to bear it, to help take the weight off your shoulders, to make things right. Your job? Be happy.

How might this be done? Let’s say your issue is guil…

Summer of Change #2: Commune with Nature

I’m not much of a nature person – I usually prefer to spend my time communing with what is in the spiritual realm than the physical – but I do understand the beauty of it and how it affects us. Grounding ourselves by being outside, away from man-made life, can be one of the most important things we do. So leave the house. Go for a walk in the nearby woods, jog through the park, sit in your garden and raise your face to the morning sun.
Commune with mother Earth. (Yep, looks like as kids we understood. Maybe it’s time to go play in that sandbox.)

Summer of Change #1: De-Stress

Stress is a killer. It kills bodies, dreams, thought… Everyone has a way to de-stress their mind and body. I suggest you take thirty minutes a day to do so.
ExerciseTake a walk in natureFind people to laugh with (notice I said with, not about – no gossipy talk here or making fun of others)MeditateDrawDo what helps you to de-stress and do it daily.
You Deserve it!